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In network with: Blue Cross PPO, Blue Choice Insurance, and Optum / United Healthcare
Hi, I’m Jake.
I help kids 9 + years old, pre-teens, teens, adults, and parents by providing a secure and non-judgmental space where you can feel heard, encouraged, and supported while exploring what keeps you stuck that stops you from trying new things and making the changes you want.
WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT
Let me take a minute and explain what a first session with me may look like. In the beginning of our meeting I will ask you a few questions about what’s important to you, including your relationships, interests, hobbies, things you do for fun, etc. I will also ask what happened recently that helped you decide now to reach out for support through counseling.
That will be a stepping off point where we will begin to talk about the stressors you have, the things that cause you frustration or emotional pain and what you hope to change and want to be different. While we are talking about these things, you will get to decide how much you talk or don’t talk, how much you open up or how guarded you remain, and you can decide when, how, and what you choose to share and be open about.
I want to make sure that you have the time and space to take small steps toward building trust. A new relationship takes time and I will be showing you that I can be a trustworthy person. Then you can decide if you are willing to take some risks, trust more, and open up more deeply. We will follow your lead and comfort level.
Together we can begin to identify what is going well in your life and what you would like to see improve. We all have strengths, areas for growth, and issues and things that concern us that we want to have change in our lives. By working together we can identify yours and then develop a plan to help you begin to address and make the changes you are ready and wanting to focus on.
Some of these will be more short term goals which will take a shorter time to work on. Whereas, others may be more long term and take some time to work through. Even if you’re a little unsure exactly what and how you want and need things to be different; it’s ok, we will work to help identify, process, and tackle these issues, so you can find the answers and solutions that are right for you.
As an Anxiety and ADHD Therapist, I provide a judgment-free space that welcomes people to be open about things that they may not feel comfortable sharing with friends or family. Therapy is a time to be able to focus on you…how you feel, what you think, what you want, what you believe, and what you hope to create in your life. You will find that: relatable, calm, unshockable, empathic, and knowledgeable, are some of the strongest traits I have as a therapist.
ADULT COUNSELING AND THERAPY FOR ADULTS
Many adults I work with say to themselves, “I shouldn’t feel this way” or “I should be able to figure this out like everyone else.” In reality, a lot of people are struggling with things in their life and try to power through them without telling others about their struggles and pain. Often, people then start to feel a level of shame and self-judgment which then hurts their confidence and self-esteem.
If the domino effect continues, then often people will start to feel depressed and anxious. If this resonates with you, I can help. I am passionate about helping adults detach from their shame and stop that cycle of self-criticism and negative beliefs. By just taking the first step of saying, “I need help,” you are finally giving yourself the opportunity to receive the support you deserve.
I work with children, adults, emerging adults, and parents who want and need some support and assistance with how to:
Decrease stress and anxiety
Diminish depression episodes
Reduce frustration and reactive anger while learning how to express and use anger management in positive ways
Become less scattered and unorganized due to distraction challenges and ADHD while learning more executive functioning skills to help with motivation, organization, and decision making
Learn and implement the skills needed for goal setting, time management skills, and reduction of procrastination to help reach more self-fulfillment
Change unwanted and unhelpful thinking patterns, including self-criticism
Improve self-confidence and self-esteem
Learning more helpful strategies of how to talk to, interact with, and parent challenging teenagers
Cope and navigate life transitions (moving, break-ups, career and relationship changes)
Figure out the whole “adulting” process and grow in self-confidence and readiness
Eliminate people-pleasing in relationships
Work through relationship conflicts and miscommunications
Process grief and mourning the loss of someone you love from divorce, separation, or ending relationships.
Life is full of challenges for us to overcome, and sometimes we just need the right tools to conquer those obstacles. If you need some more skills and solutions, I would be happy to help you work through the current situations that are causing you discomfort and emotional suffering.
COUNSELING FOR TEENS
You know it and I know it — being a teen the last few years has been ROUGH! The world has been nothing like we expected or anticipated it would be. You have missed out on a ton of experiences that should have been rightfully yours. If you think life has sucked and you’re sick of everything that’s gone on around you, I get it. You’ve been robbed of normal teens experiences and you have reasons to be angry, sad, and even depressed.
Change is a constant. Pressures and expectations are usually dynamics that teens wish they could live without. There doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day to balance school, times with friends, me time, family responsibilities, and eating! Keeping up with all the demands that everyone else places on you is difficult.
If you’re feeling down on yourself for not doing all that is expected of you, it’s understandable since often there aren’t enough hours in the day to get it all done. When all this pressure builds, it can lead teens like you to feel insecure, overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, and angry.
Some teens who I’ve worked with in therapy shut down when life gets too stressful and they avoid and ignore everything and everyone they can. They often find themselves laying in their bed for hours watching Youtube or TikTok and getting nothing done by the end of the day. Sometimes this shut actually ends up raising their anxiety because they miss due dates for schoolwork, blow off work, or have parents losing it on them because they haven’t done their chores around the house. Honestly, it’s not a great cycle. I know it doesn’t feel good when adults don’t understand and are good at pointing out what you’re not doing right.
TEENS AND PARENTS TOGETHER
I work to help teens and parents break this cycle of internalized pressure, shame, procrastination, and avoidance. While working with my teen clients, I help them develop problem solving skills to catch up on assignments, find balance in responsibilities and fun activities, deal with daily stressors of being a teen, and help them develop their sense of identity.
In counseling my hope is to give teens a space to share things they may not feel comfortable sharing with other people. I want to help them feel they can be open with me without feeling judged or criticized so we can have open conversations about their experiences. We work together to help identify their needs and wants and develop the skills needed so they can appropriately communicate those needs and wants so they are effective. This helps them find their voice and thus use it at home, school, work, and with friends.
I work with teens who are struggling and want and need some support and assistance with how to:
Reduce social anxiety and improve coping skills for generalized anxiety
Manage impulsive reactions and behaviors
Increase self-esteem and improve self-confidence
Lessen isolation and depression related symptoms and increase positive socialization and interactions with others
Develop skills to increase focus, organization, responsibility, and decision making skills
Learn healthy emotional coping skills
Set healthy boundaries within relationships with friends and family
Understand, accept, and embrace their sexual identity and gender
Cope with fear of failure
Reduce self-injury or other unhelpful repetitive behaviors
Better understand what alcohol and/or drugs is doing for them to help make informed decisions about when, where, how much or if they use / drink.
Make informed decisions about substance use
Develop effective communication with parents to decrease conflict and negative consequences due to communication breakdowns.
Stop continual procrastination and increase time management skills to help reduce overall stress
HOW I CAN HELP PARENTS
Parents have great responsibility and it can be scary when we see our children struggle through something difficult. In fact this experience is down right emotionally painful.
I work with parents to rebuild the communication with their teens so trust can be rebuilt and enhanced. I guide parents on effective ways to teach their teens healthy problem-solving skills and helpful communication skills.
Having parents involved in their teens counseling is often very helpful. When there is collaboration then there can be new connection and growth for both parent and teen.
MY PROFESSIONAL JOURNEY AS AN ANXIETY AND ADHD THERAPIST
I’ve often been told and ever since I can remember, I’ve been a good listener. For years, people have found me to be an easy person to open up and talk to. They tend to feel comfortable and safe around me.
I obtained my Bachelor’s of Arts in degree in Psychology from North Central College. During that time I worked at the Wellness Center as a peer counselor and helped international students and out of state students transition more easily to college life. My goal was to help students find their place in a new environment and grow from their experience. I was also an Orientation Leader, which helped me find my voice and be an advocate for students and families that were starting something completely new.
I obtained my Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling degree from Argosy University and while there completed an internship at a Private counseling practice working with teens and families providing individual, family, and group counseling.
Before joining Health and Healing Therapy, I’ve worked in a psychiatric hospital setting, and for the past several years I’ve been working as a therapist at another private counseling practice that offers mental health and substance abuse intensive outpatient therapy and outpatient counseling for teens, emerging adults, families, and adults.
In the therapy services I provide, I work from a model that focuses on how we think, feel, and behave. If you can change one of these things, then the others will start to change overtime. If we were to work together I would help you find a new outlook on things, reach your goals, and help you find the confidence you need to face the challenges in your life.
COUNSELING AND THERAPY APPROACHES
Person Centered Therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
Parent Education and Support
Executive Functioning Skill Development
EDUCATION AND CERTIFICATIONS
B.A. Psychology, North Central College
M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Argosy University
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) Illinois License: 180.014306
Nationally Certified Counselor
I’m sure you’ve been struggling for a while and that is why you are here. Sometimes life seems way too hard and that’s when we need to ask for and receive help and support. You don’t have to figure all of it out on your own. Together we can find solutions, identify and learn new skills, and make the necessary changes so you can begin to feel better. I welcome the opportunity to work with you to help you get to where you wish you were right at this moment. It may be hard to believe, but it’s within your reach and you can get to a better place where life is much easier. If you’re ready to start now, contact me.