What if you could create the relationship you want and deserve?
Couples therapy or marriage counseling can help partners get back on the right track and repair damaged trust, intimacy, and attachment.
Marriage therapists and researchers, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, note that couples wait an average of six years before getting professional help for relationship difficulties. That means partners may have nearly a decade of built-up resentment, hostility, emotional pain, stress, or broken trust before seeking help from a couples counselor or marriage therapist.
If that feels true for you – if you think, maybe, you should have tried therapy sooner – we encourage you to take the next step now. Let’s begin helping you and your partner find your way back to each other.
Coping with Relationship Challenges, Communication Problems, and Conflict
“I don’t ever feel good enough. It always seems like I screw up every relationship. I don’t want to be like this, but I feel so needy and insecure. I don’t know what my problem is.”
“We can’t even talk to each other without arguing. I’m tired of the constant conflict and tension, so I brought up separation.”
“I don’t feel close to him anymore, and we haven’t been intimate for months.”
Even the closest and happiest of couples face difficulties and challenges. We all have responsibilities and tasks that demand our attention and, sometimes, our priorities change. We get off track and can find that we haven’t been putting the necessary time, energy, attention, and work into our most intimate relationship.
- Have you been feeling alone or distant from your partner?
- Does it sometimes seem like you are living with a stranger?
- Are you unsure how you feel about your partner and how to deal with who they have become?
- Have you been struggling so much that you’re considering separation or divorce?
- Are you wondering if you would be happier on your own?
- Did you recently find out your partner is having an emotional and/or physical affair?
- Are you feeling overwhelmed with having to cope with your partner’s mental illness, addiction, or chronic illness?
If you can relate to any of these experiences, it is evident you are hurting, struggling, frustrated, and unhappy.
You know you want things to change. Where you are at is not where you want to be. With the help of relationship counseling, you and your partner can change the behaviors and patterns that are hurting your relationship.
Couples therapy and marriage counseling can help you create a loving and supportive relationship with your partner.
Rebuilding Trust & Enhancing Intimacy and Emotional Connection
Having a close, supportive, and trusting relationship takes work. To effectively communicate, you may need to learn some new skills. A relationship therapist will help facilitate open communication, allowing you and your partner to teach each other the ways you both need to be treated.
In our work with couples, we use The Gottman Method, an evidence-based practice for couples therapy. We inform couples about the decades of couples research available to us and what we have learned in the behavioral health field about what helps people become relationship “masters.”
People who are “masters” at relationships have loving, supportive, intimate, and strong partner relationships. They have a set of skills, behaviors, and patterns that align them with their partner. These skills help them to navigate the stressors and difficulties that arise in relating to their partner in supportive, trusting, and productive ways. We all have some of these strengths. However, we often need guidance to develop more helpful patterns of interaction that support our relationships in positive ways.
We will work with you both individually and as a couple to help you learn how to manage conflicts, how to be present and support your partner, and, lastly, how to become a better friend. Through this process, you will create positive memories and build hope for the future. With these skills and new patterns, a long-term healthy and rewarding relationship is possible – one where you and your partner establish a greater mutual understanding, intimacy, and connection.
As a team, you, your partner, and our therapists will:
Learn to recognize stuck patterns
- Understand the patterns you get stuck in within your relationship
- Talk through why and how you and your partner get stuck in unhealthy, harmful, and stressful patterns
Foster understanding and empathy
- Identify and examine the underlying feelings, fears, core issues, and unmet needs that exacerbate these patterns
- Remove the barriers so each of you can see the other’s perspective
Practice intimacy and connection
- Learn how to interact and communicate with each other without shame, judgment, or criticism
- Exercise your abilities to communicate with compassion and empathy that will lead you to connect and nurture your relationship
You are here, and you are contemplating starting couples therapy or marriage counseling. It’s a huge step. You can work your way back to each other to create the kind of relationship that you both want and deserve.
Let us begin helping you create the loving and meaningful relationship you want. Get in touch to begin couples therapy or marriage counseling today.
Meet our Therapists
At Health and Healing Therapy, our qualified therapists work with you to help you create the loving and meaningful relationship you want. We will work to make sure that you feel heard, understood, and supported.
You can create the relationship you want and deserve.
Let us begin helping you create the loving and meaningful relationship you want.