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Parenting the Highly Sensitive Child

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If your child is sensitive to the emotions of others, worrisome, and easily overwhelmed by changes or new people and environments, you may have a highly sensitive child. Parenting can be demanding, and parenting a highly sensitive child can present additional challenges. However, with a few simple strategies, you can better manage everyday problems and create a more peaceful home for the both of you.

Change Your Viewpoint

First, it’s important to change your viewpoint. Your initial reaction might be to see your highly sensitive child’s unique needs as a detriment rather than an asset. However, highly sensitive children tend to be more creative, insightful, and empathic. With proper guidance and understanding, your child will grow into a happy and well-adjusted adult.

Encouragement and Praise

Your highly sensitive child will maintain their sensitivity into adulthood. Therefore, it’s crucial that they learn as a child to embrace and manage their emotions. Feeling shame about their sensitivity could cause them to develop anxiety and depression as they age.

Validate your child’s feelings by encouraging them to express themself, and listen when they speak. Encourage your child to manage their emotions rather than suppress them. Don’t ask or expect your child to “toughen up.”

Your sensitive child will also benefit from praise on a job well done, as this will help them develop confidence in themself.

Help Them Prepare

Sensitive children can become easily overwhelmed by new environments and people, so a little preparation can be helpful for both of you. For example, if your child is headed to a new classroom, prepare them a week or so in advance by visiting the school, playing in the playground, and meeting some of the teachers. Reassure them that it’s natural to feel a little anxious and that the other children are nervous as well.

Create a Safe Space

It’s often important for highly sensitive children to retreat to a quiet place where they can be alone with their thoughts. Their safe space can be a literal space you’ve created, or it can be as simple as a container of crayons, blank paper, and their favorite stuffed animal in a quiet area of the house.

Get Involved

If you notice that your child tends to isolate or have great difficulty in social situations, try volunteering for field trips or as an occasional recess or lunch monitor. Encourage your child to participate by interacting with the other children. When they see you having fun, they are more likely to go from observing to participating.

With love and gentle guidance, your highly sensitive child will develop a confidence and self-acceptance that will carry them into adulthood. If you or your highly sensitive child needs guidance and support, please give us a call to schedule an appointment.

Colleen Koncilja Bartlett Illinois Trauma Therapist

About Colleen Koncilja, LCSW, CADC, ICGC-II, BACC

I have been providing individual therapy, group counseling, and treatment services for over 30 years. I currently provide therapy to adults and couples in our private practice, Health and Healing Therapy PLLC, where I serve as the Director as well as a Therapist.

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